If you want to learn to swim, you have to get in the water. If you want to learn how to drive, you have to get in the car. If you want to learn how to fight, you have to get into the ring. Really. No matter how uncomfortable it may be, you cannot learn to fight unless you get into the ring.
The same can be said of learning to deal with conflict. You can’t learn how to deal with it if you never enter the conflict ring. And that is why most people never deal with conflict. Let alone deal with conflict productively. They avoid it completely; in a desperate hope it will just go away. Guess what? It never goes away on its own….